Tuesday, January 13, 2009

That old Nugget

We've been having a look at what sort of ceremony we would like to begin our marriage with. We were toying with the idea of just going to the registry office and having a very small private ceremony. We had a look at here and spoke to a few people who had chosen this route. We were delighted to hear that some parties found it a very special experience, and were sad to hear about other encounters where a local registry office was situated in a multipurpose health-community-daycare centre, which the couple found took away from the solemnity of the occasion. The procedures etc. for just going through the legal side of things rather than a spiritual ceremony can be found here. It's not the best website in the world and typically with public sector websites it's cluttered, badly designed and overloaded with links. It is, however, full of information if you trawl through it, which is I suppose it's purpose. Try ringing them ;) they'll just say "it's all on the website..."



Anyway! There are another 2 websites that are actually not bad on the serious side of things. We've been looking at both because although we're both of Christian descent, one is RC and the other CoI. So the websites are...

Marriage Matters and Getting Married, simple as. They are both clutter-free and full of lots more handy information about getting married in churches and what you need to concern yourself with. Paperwork, permissions, that sort of thing.



I won't rant too much here about having to seek out permission from people who don't know you to marry your partner, or about having to get special dispensation from those on high in one church to get married in the other, or about making promises about the religious upbringing of your future offspring, regardless of what you believe in your heart... Oh no, you will not find rants on those areas here...not right now...



My lovely parental units shone a wee light on this one to see if that would stop the ranting. A non-credal church. Sounds promising! They're good folks, my wrinklies.



Pic from unitarianchurchdublin.org
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3 comments:

  1. AndrewJanuary 15, 2009 at 9:34 AM

    A Unitarian church wouldn't be a bad way to go at all, depending on how religious either of you are. See, I admire the Unitarians but sometimes I'm inclined to think that if you believe in everything then you believe in nothing.
    It's rare nowadays that one should have to make any kind of promise about how you'll raise your children, most priests don't really subscribe to that. It should be easy enough to have a wedding in either an RC or a C of I church with representatives from both sides present. Happens all the time...

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  2. MJJanuary 16, 2009 at 8:35 AM

    Thanks for the comment Andy, it's always good to hear other takes on these matters. Sort of why I started the blog really... We're not regular Sunday morning regulars but we do have faith, so I'm glad we're both taking it seriously.

    Yes I was shocked (and quite annoyed to be perfectly honest) when I heard about this promise thing. I thought all that crap was back in our dark and silly history but apparently it depends on the priest/bishop/parish/dioses involved. Darn the frigging RC chaps with their massive blinkers and tunnel vision.

    Rant over (for the moment)

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  3. AndrewJanuary 17, 2009 at 8:36 AM

    I know, it's unbelievable really! Just don't get pressured into doing anything like that, because it definitely is avoidable, even if you get married in a Roman Catholic church.

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